How to Start Dating After 60: Re-Entering the Dating Scene After a Long Hiatus

When dating at an older age, feeling scared and unsure of what to do is normal. Feeling shy about entering the dating scene and curious about how online dating works is natural. We will help you find a relationship that suits your needs. Before you start dating and looking for a relationship, take some time to make yourself feel happy and content. We’ve created a list below to help you get started.

Dating after 60 can be tricky but it is possible to find love again here are some tips on how to start dating again later in life.

Let go of past failures and frustrations

Dating after 60 can be fun. First, reset your clock and stop letting the past define your future. After disappointment like making mistakes, losing a job, or going through a divorce, it’s easy to feel defeated and broken. Remember that you are the sum of your experiences and choices, not just a few negative ones.

Reconcile past relationship traumas

If you were in an abusive relationship or marriage, reflect and think about ways to avoid this behavior from others. If you are divorced, figure out what you would do differently in the future, and how to avoid a similar experience.

Get to a good place about your feelings of yourself 

Half the battle of having a happy life when dating after 60 is getting ourselves to a good place about how we feel. This includes setting boundaries and rules for yourself about how you might respond to dissatisfaction or future conflicts. In your new relationships, don’t be afraid to say ‘I don’t agree with you on X’ or ‘I might not be interested in Y.’

Ask yourself if you are happy with the way you look and feel. If you don’t like the way you look, take small steps so you’ll feel better about yourself. Consider starting a new hobby, volunteering for a cause you care about and trying new foods. You can also do traditional stuff like work out, lose weight, or sleep more. Accept yourself and find someone who will accept you for who you are.

Talk with a dating coach

Before signing up with an online dating site like eHarmony or, sign up for a free consultation with a dating coach. Make sure your dating coach has experience coaching people older than 60. A dating coach will give you advice on how to meet other singles older than sixty, dating advice, tips on how to have interesting conversations with your date, how to stay safe while dating, and what to expect when dating senior citizens.

Surround yourself with people who are supportive of you finding love again

If you’re looking for love, begin by surrounding yourself with family and friends who support you in finding love again. This is especially true if you have recently been single due to a breakup or divorce. It takes time to rebuild your confidence and the courage to start dating again, and it is much more difficult if you are around people who do not support you. 

If you have children unsupportive of your quest to find love, think about ways to find support elsewhere. Everyone needs help, and it is important to spend time with people who will support you.

Think about who you are looking for and why

People come in all shapes and sizes, so it’s not always easy to find the right person for your needs. In finding someone over 60 that you have a good connection with, it’s essential that you think about who you are, your needs, desires, and what you need in your 60s. 

Questions to consider when dating over 60:

  • Are you someone who needs a lot of flexibility in your life? 
  • Do you want a partner who is similar to you or different? 
  • Is traveling important to you? 
  • Do you need a partner who loves traveling?
  • Are children important? 
  • Is monogamy a deal breaker?
  • Are you looking to get married?
  • Is retirement and free time important?
  • Do you want to live with someone?


Dating after 60 can be scary and might feel unnatural. Set yourself up for success by surrounding yourself with people who support you, reconciling past traumas, setting boundaries, and asking yourself what you want out of a relationship.