Dating after 60 – How to improve your virtual dating experience

Dating later in life already presents a new social landscape to learn, and the pandemic has only added more changes to adapt to. It seems to be a lot harder to go out to meet someone, or set up drinks with a potential date and create a true connection, but this new age of virtual dating creates a lot of opportunities to have a fulfilling love life. Dating virtually can be really fun, comfortable, and will keep you safe. If you’re trying to navigate this era of dating, there are a few things that can improve the experience for both you and your date.

Setting Up A Video Date

One of the most important parts of virtual dating is setting up a quality video chat where you get to know each other’s faces and voices. There are a lot of programs to choose from, like Zoom, Google Meet, Skype, and even FaceTime. Most platforms have a free tier option, but keep in mind that there may be a time limit. Other things to consider when you choose a service to use, are its reputation for your online security, and if it’s compatible with you and your date’s operating system. For example, FaceTime would only work if you both have Apple products. Consider practicing with the platform so that your date will go smoothly. Ask a friend or family member to test it out with you.

You’ll also want to make sure you have a good background for your date. Pick a quiet area in your home where you won’t have to worry about distractions. Feel free to set the mood too. You can make it as casual or as romantic as you want with your background. Dim lighting, a few candles, and maybe even some background music can really make it feel like the date night you’re used to.

Another thing to consider while you’re prepping for your date is if you’re going to pay for your date. For a lot of people, paying might be how you make your date feel cared for. Or maybe you’re celebrating something and you want to make the person a gift for your date. You might want to pay for their food, rent them a movie, or even pay for an upgraded chat service so the date can go on for hours. Once you’ve decided who is going to pay, you can send a gift card or code for them to use. 

Making It Feel Special For You And Your Date

Sometimes a virtual date can feel like you’re missing out on the intimate connection that you’d have in person. One way to make your date feel like they’re special to you is by dressing to impress them. Think about how you’d put yourself together if you were planning on meeting them out for dinner or drinks and put in that same effort for your virtual date. This can be an unspoken way to increase the connection between you and your date. 

Another way to make the date memorable is to trade your favorite drinks. You and your date can get to know each other this way by using an alcohol delivery service to send each other a nice bottle of wine, or the makings to your favorite cocktail. Send it to them ahead of time, so during your date, you talk about each other’s picks. 

If you’re planning on a more traditional dinner date, you can make this a fun virtual experience by picking out a recipe together ahead of time. You can make it during your date, and help each other cook, or you can make it before the date and experience it together. Not only does it give you an activity for the date, but it also opens up the conversation for likes and dislikes in the kitchen.

Creating A Valuable Connection

Whether you’re dating in-person or virtually, you want the date to go smoothly and be free of uncomfortable breaks of conversation. Virtual dating is a great way to get that human connection, so you want to make the most of the time you have with your partner. You might miss out on things like reading your date’s body language or having a shared setting, but if you plan ahead you can make a strong connection anyway.

Have a few questions or talking points ready for your date. Not only does this fill the time, but it helps to show your date that you’re really interested in getting to know them. If you met your date on an online dating site, try pulling a few details from their profile that you want to know more about. Think of things about yourself that might match up with their interests so you can keep the conversation flowing.

Watching a movie together feels like an activity that might only be fun by being physically together, but by using a virtual streaming service that can match up your watch times, it can be just as good for a virtual date. If you have plans for multiple dates, you can rotate who gets to choose the film, or you can choose a new genre each time. You could show your date a movie that means a lot to you, and that might help them feel like they’re establishing a deeper connection with you.

Virtual dating does not have to be a loveless experience. By putting in some effort to make it more enjoyable for you and your partner, it can be an adventure that will bring you true joy and give you a chance to establish a beautiful connection.